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Do you remember the first conversation? I mean sure you had arguments, discussions, therapy sessions etc…. BUT, do you remember when the word “Divorce” was first said out loud? Friggin A….I do and its something I’ve learned to laugh about with my friends and family all the time now.
Picture the scene…. beautiful home in the hills of Northern California. Sunshine, 60’s outside, my young kids were playing quietly in another room. (Kids playing quietly, by the way, is a feat for many of us) My wife and I had been going in circles trying to figure out our 18-year marriage. We all know the issues as I’m sure you have had the same ones too. So there I am working on being thoughtful as she came home early Saturday afternoon from running errands. I grabbed a nice bottle of wine, made a beautiful cheese board and walked outside to our patio on that beautiful day. Not 2 minutes into the conversation and the “D” word was dropped. The heart stops, breath lost and its almost like you were not sure you heard right…..but you can see in her eyes she was serious.
Yep…me too.
So what do you do or better yet what did you do, for those with this experience? Beg and plead on your knees? Pretend it was a joke? Start to cry? Jump up and down in excitement? I don’t know you could have been waiting for this day like Xmas!! Well….I was not. It hurt and it hurt bad. The funny thing is I don’t…
